In relationships, partners can get stuck in patterns of reactivity. We can become so stuck, in fact, that nobody really knows when or why it started, we just know that it is happening.
My aim is to help the couple stop behaving reactively and begin behaving intentionally. This process teaches us how to recognize the cycle before we get caught up in it, giving us a choice to create new fulfilling patterns.
If you're facing challenges related to intimacy, trust, connection, or other issues, Gottman method therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy are proven couples counseling approaches to create a deeper bond and achieve greater satisfaction in your relationship. Together we'll learn how to communicate most effectively with your partner and build the kind of connection you want in your relationship.
Self-defeating patterns come in many forms: Overthinking/rumination, racing thoughts, avoidance, lack of motivation, engaging with intrusive thoughts, anxiety, depression and more.
To address these patterns I use an evidence-based approach that combines traditional cognitive behavioral techniques with Buddhist-inspired mindfulness practices. This will help you change your relationship to your inner world and give you more control over your actions, leading to more life satisfaction. Clients of mine report coming away from therapy with an ability to "make sense" of their internal experiences, allowing them greater control of their lives.
Therapy can be a huge step in committing to improving your life, and I would be honored to take these next steps with you. You are the expert in your experience, and my job is not to "fix" you, but rather to work with you to maximize your potential and live a life that is more fulfilling.